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Definitely not a precooked meat product

… from emotional intelligence at work

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Newsletter 41 : 23 september 2010

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Greetings
Welcome to our latest newsletter.  We like to offer a change from other newsletters which can demand an awful lot of reading.


Quotations of the week

I never even thought about whether or not they understand what I’m doing… the emotional reaction is all that matters.  As long as there’s some feeling of communication, it isn’t necessary that it be understood.

You can play a shoestring if you’re sincere.

John Coltrane, jazz saxophonist, born 23 September 1926


Unsettling video of the week 

This challenging human drama by Improv Everywhere messes with your feelings  (dur 3:57)


Emotionally intelligent principle of leadership

Another of the principles which we recommend leaders bear in mind when they communicate

The outcome of any communication is what we intend it to be

Last time we talked about the principle that the meaning of a communication is what the recipient makes of it.  We can only understand what someone says to us in the context of our own experiences and attitudes.  We cannot import the other person into our minds.  We used the example of the then prime minister Margaret Thatcher who was widely quoted as saying “There is no such thing as society”.  Although her apologists to this day insist she was quoted out of context and she meant something else entirely, the message that most people got was “There is no such thing as society”.

What this week’s principle says is that, even though consciously she intended to communicate something other than the message many people picked up, actually, at bottom, she really meant to say what everyone thought she said.  Unconsciously, she wanted to communicate “there is no such thing as society”- and it’s important to remember she was unaware of this;  consciously she elaborated a more complex message and genuinely communicated it.  But her unconscious message got picked up anyway.

It is a deep principle of relationships that our partners show us what is unconscious in our minds, and the principle that ‘the outcome of any communication is what we intend it to be’ is a specific case of this.


Interesting railway station of the week

For the first in a brand new series we visit the fascinating Central Station of Antwerp  (dur 4:01)


It makes you think

Get a sense of proportion with this site by Cary and Michael Huang which cleverly illustrates the relative sizes of everything from subatomic particles to the local galactic supercluster.


All contributions welcome.

If you have been, thank you for reading.
Kay and Jeremy


emotional intelligence at work

associates  Jeremy Marchant, Kay McMahon

Compiled by Jeremy Marchant . added 11 february 2015 . image:  screen grab from Huang site

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  • Short storyShort story
  • ProjectionProjection
  • Commit to growthCommit to growth
  • Why emotional intelligence is important in the workplaceWhy emotional intelligence is important in the workplace
  • A short piece about business networking eventsA short piece about business networking events
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